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Difficult conversations — about persistent underperformance, conduct, a role that is not working — are hard because they carry consequences and because the other person's reaction is unpredictable. Preparation reduces both risks: knowing exactly what the facts are, what the expectation is, what support is on offer, and what happens next; and planning for denial, anger, tears or silence so the manager does not improvise.

These prompts prepare the conversation, plan for reactions, and document the outcome. They are for the manager's preparation; the process that follows (formal warnings, performance improvement plans, investigations) is governed by policy and law and belongs with HR — the prompts say so where the line is.

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The prompts

1. Prepare the conversation with facts, expectations and support

Best forA preparation sheet that keeps the conversation on facts and makes the expectation and support explicit.
Inputs needed
  • Facts and prior feedback
  • Expectation
  • Support
  • Policy stage
How to use itGive the specifics. The model builds the opening, the facts as a short list, the expectation, the support, and the next-step statement — and flags anything that needs HR before the conversation.
Expected outputOpening statement, fact list, expectation with timeframe, support offered, next steps per policy, questions to ask, and the HR checks required first.
Act as an HR business partner helping [manager] prepare a difficult conversation with [employee, role] about [issue].

Facts: [specific examples with dates; prior feedback given, when, and what followed]
Expectation: [the specific change and timeframe]
Support: [what can be offered]
Policy: [where this sits — informal, formal, PIP — as confirmed with HR]

1. Opening (three sentences): the purpose, that it is serious, that the aim is to resolve it.
2. Facts: the examples in order, factual, no adjectives, with the impact.
3. Prior feedback: what was said before and what has and has not changed.
4. Expectation: specific, measurable where possible, with the date; and the consequence if not met, stated plainly and in line with policy.
5. Support: what the manager and organization will provide.
6. Their view: the question that invites their account, and how to listen for information that changes the picture (health, workload, unclear expectations, personal circumstances — and the response to each, including where to refer).
7. Close: what happens next, in writing, by when.
8. HR checks before the conversation: anything here that requires a formal process, an investigation, an adjustment consideration, or legal advice — do not proceed without them.

Keep the manager's part factual and short. The employee's part cannot be scripted.

2. Plan for the reactions that derail the conversation

Best forKnowing what to do when the person denies, argues, becomes upset, goes silent, or raises something new.
Inputs needed
  • Preparation sheet
  • What you expect from this person
  • Your own triggers
How to use itThe model prepares a response for each reaction type — what to say, what not to say, when to pause — and the two things the manager must not concede.
Expected outputReaction-by-reaction response plan, the lines to hold, the signals to pause or stop, and the manager's self-management notes.
You are preparing [manager] for the reactions in a difficult conversation with [employee] about [issue].

Preparation: [facts, expectation, support, next steps]
Expected reactions: [denial, counter-accusation, anger, distress, silence, a new disclosure, 'why now?']
Manager's concerns: [what they are worried about]

For each reaction:
1. What to say (short, calm, returns to the facts and the expectation) and what not to say (arguing, apologizing for the message, escalating).
2. When a reaction changes the plan: a disclosure (health, harassment, personal crisis) that must be heard, taken seriously and routed correctly — pause the performance conversation, state what happens next, involve HR.
3. Distress: how to allow a pause, offer a break, and reschedule without abandoning the message.
4. Anger or accusations: the boundary statement and the point at which the meeting ends and resumes later with HR present.
5. Silence: the question that invites a response and the acceptance that they may need time.
Then: the two things the manager must not concede (the facts; the expectation), the two things they can flex (timeline within reason; support), and self-management notes (breathing, note-taking, not filling silence).

The goal is a fair, clear conversation, not winning it.

3. Document the conversation fairly

Best forA record of what was said, agreed and expected, written promptly and shared with the employee.
Inputs needed
  • Notes from the conversation
  • Preparation sheet
  • Policy requirements for records
How to use itPaste the notes. The model writes the record with facts, the employee's response, agreements, expectations and next steps — factual, balanced, and in line with the policy stage.
Expected outputWritten record with the employee's account included, agreed actions, expectations and dates, the support committed, next review, and the cover message to the employee.
Act as an HR business partner drafting the record of a difficult conversation between [manager] and [employee] on [date] about [issue].

Notes: [paste — what was said by each side, agreements, disagreements]
Preparation sheet: [facts, expectation, support]
Policy: [what the record must contain at this stage; who receives it; retention — to verify]

1. Purpose and attendees.
2. The concerns raised: the facts as stated, with dates.
3. The employee's response: their account and any disagreements, recorded fairly in their terms.
4. Agreements: what both sides agreed; expectations with dates; support committed by the organization; the next review date.
5. Anything raised that requires separate handling (a disclosure, an adjustment request, a grievance) and the action taken.
6. Next steps per policy, stated exactly as told to the employee.
7. Cover message to the employee: the record is attached, they can add comments or corrections by [date], who to contact.

Factual and balanced. A record that only contains the manager's view is not a fair record.

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